Have faith in GOD

Life's incessant whirling flux has made it hard to understand that certain factors mature slowly and organically. Progress comes along with it, though may not be in the time scale we envisage. If we have trust in ourselves, wonderful possibilities will be developing faster than ever. All we have to do is to have faith in GOD.

There is a way

I know not all windows of opportunity are big enough to climb through. The narrow opening that lies before me now will enlarge with further inspection and efforts. There is a way to get through to the other side for sure.

Security

We need irritation to help us appreciate comfort. We need to experience insecurity before we can appreciate security.

Stick to known devil...

Be glad of the most annoying person in your world. If you were to rid yourself of this character, you would create a vacuum that would be filled by someone new and possibly worse. Stick with the devil you know.

This is how GOD works

It’s hard to be sure if I am suffering from delusions or if what I think is really happening, or could happen. But also I may or may not have noticed, something amazing is starting to happen in my world. This is how GOD works – I may notice or may not notice.

I'm so grateful GOD

I am presently trying that issues from my past should be seen in a new and more constructive light. My old fear that I once found intimidating has become insignificant and irrelevant. I am pretty sure that an opportunity will emerge to reclaim a big dream that I once thought was lost. I will soon become part of my happy new beginning.

The new beginning is a sense of purpose which brings inspiration, clarity and meaning. The importance of these attributes cannot be overemphasized. I will have to make myself known as to what needs to happen and ask myself, “am I willing to go to great lengths to ensure that it does?” If I do than I have to keep following the path I am on.

My soul tells me that I am now entering the comfort zone where I can relax in an oasis of sanity amid a desert of chaos. God will help and success will shine on me and illuminate a special path that will lead to the fulfillment of my greatest aspirations.

I've worked closely with others toward a common objective, but a recent encounter with obstacles has made me realize that certain people are not nearly as committed as I thought. With my new aspirations coming in; I have to free myself to be able to act independently. My leadership will inspire them to follow.

I will take my time and wouldn’t rush into any decision. The sky is granting me a surprising amount of strength and support. I am so grateful for it and will draw on it as much as I need to.

I may not be happy but...

I may not be happy with the way things are going and would rather choose a different direction entirely. However, even the stuff I am not so keen on has magic in its makeup somewhere, which could help me find the joy and success to which I feel I am entitled. I have to keep heart. I have to take it easy. I have to be with myself. I may not be able to speak openly on many subjects. It could be my diplomacy, caution or discretion which may prevent me from discussing openly. I know it will look as if it is slowing the pace of developments. But I know that it is precisely this refined technique that will expedite the most beneficial outcome. No matter how thoroughly I think things through, there is no way of escaping the reality that changes have to be made to my current state of affairs. The shake up I am experiencing is the best possible thing for me. I let myself say good riddance to certain old antiquated routines.

I can do it

I have studied all the options available to me. I've picked my route and commenced my journey. Now, I have to deal with real issues rather than theoretical extrapolations. I’ve to now summon my instincts and I'll find that I can do it still.

Are you feeling thin? Life not fair?

Are you feeling thin? Life seems not to be fair to you? If all seems to be going crazy in your life, take heart. Worse trouble comes when we mistakenly think that life is predictable. Chaos is always lurking. So let us take it easy, let us slow down, so that we have the time to look carefully at the mayhem in our emotional life and be glad of it. There are divine methods to take care of that madness. Many things may not have been the way you wanted them to be. There may be many reasons but I suggest you to forget the reasons why something’s can’t be done at this time. I believe, you have the capacity and you know hoe to make them happen.

In more difficulties, we need more control of ourselves

It seems the future hangs in the balance as we swing from side to side on our pendulum on day-to-day basis. We overly emphasize one issue over the other. This might tip our whole delicate mechanism. A have to look and find one way which will harmonize two possible paths. We will have to work hard. We will have to keep ourselves in our own control. We cannot loose control and hope to find the way. The more we are in difficulties, the more control we need on ourselves. Once we have done that, ‘a way to harmonize two possible paths will begin to emerge.

Best friend gives gift of life

It's a true story of relationship that happened here in Ontario. A lot to learn from it. Today's world in which people kill people; this gives you a new direction...
BY: ELAINE CAREY
They started out as simply landlord and tenant — one rented the basement apartment in the other's house.
But five years later, homeowner John Nabereznyj and renter Troy Forster can't even think of a way to describe their unique relationship because John saved Troy's life by giving him one of his kidneys.
As they sit in Forster's hospital room not even a week after the surgery, they are overwhelmed with emotion describing how much it has come to mean to both of them.
"We have a special relationship now that transcends pretty well anything people could imagine in terms of my thoughts for him," says Nabereznyj, 41, who was discharged from Toronto General Hospital the day before.
"One of our goals is to make this being a special thing to do become less special because more people do it."
Forster says simply he hasn't found words yet to describe "this wonderful gesture."
"In my mind, John is the biggest hero in the world — but I want him to become less of a hero, when it becomes more acceptable and more people make a difference in this world."
They talk excitedly about starting a grassroots movement of paying it forward — doing something good for someone else after something good happens to you.
Living donors are almost exclusively close relatives, because they are the ones most willing to sacrifice an organ for a loved one, not to mention most likely to be a blood and tissue match.
But with a severe shortage of both living and deceased donors, recipients are looking farther afield to find matches.
None of that ever crossed the two men's minds when they met five years ago after Forster, 40, applied to be the new tenant in Nabereznyj's Roncesvalles Village home.
Forster had been diagnosed two years earlier with TgA nephropathy, a progressive disease that leaves deposits of protein in the filters of the kidneys.
At that point, he was just taking blood-pressure medication but his condition began to deteriorate and, 14 months ago, he had to start dialysis treatment.
`It's made me rethink my role in society and how we treat our fellow people.'
Troy Forster, kidney recipient
A software specialist, Forster started a website called Troy's Kidney to keep his family and friends informed about his condition and his search for a donor match.
While Nabereznyj said he would have a blood test to see if he was a match, Forster thought it was "a nice gesture but I didn't think he was serious."
But after weeks of stalling, Nabereznyj did get screened and, after even more tests, found out he was a match.
"There were doubts," he admits. "But I have a tremendously supportive wife and she inspired me."
His wife Vanessa had her own health crisis 18 months ago when she almost died from bacterial meningitis. Because of that, several of Nabereznyj's family members didn't support the kidney donation, arguing he needed to be there for her and his two young children, Roman, 9, and Eva, 8.
But Nabereznyj saw it differently.
"I thought, `If bad things happen to good people like Troy and Vanessa, why can't good things happen to good people,'" he says. "It always seemed like it was the right thing to do. I feel that now more than ever."
While Forster admits while he was flattered by the offer, "in the back of my mind, I always thought, `you've got a young family.' I wouldn't have been surprised if he'd backed out. Every day I thought someone's going to phone and say he'd really like to do this but the kids come first.'"
Nabereznyj shakes his head. "If your whole life is based on `what if,' you'd end up going crazy. It's made me appreciate everything I have, how lucky I am to have what I have."
As for Forster, "it's changed me a lot," he says. "It's made me rethink my role in society and how we treat our fellow people."
As well, there's the "tremendous responsibility" to take care of his new kidney, including a lifelong regimen of taking anti-rejection drugs about every four hours, tied to when he has meals.
"If I was to do anything foolish and screw it up, I'd never be able to face you again," he says to Nabereznyj. "It's a huge responsibility."
Now the two are planning to go on an adventure race — a non-stop mountain biking, canoeing, and ropes course extravaganza — the kind of outdoor endurance test that Forster used to revel in before his illness.
But first, Forster has a party to plan to thank the extensive network of family and friends who pitched in to help and lent emotional support. He's just not sure where to have it.
"For the number of people I want to invite, my apartment (no longer in Nabereznyj's basement) would be too small," he says with a laugh.

Have trust in God

Q: "These days I am passing through a very thin time. Things are just notin control. The more I try to keep under control the more I get upset. Recently I got a shock of my life. Sam (name changed) whom I sold my old flat. At the time of getting it transferred in his name I had asked him that few of my belongings will remain there till I get my papers, I kept this stipulation before his father and Andrew (a common friend name chaged) categorically. But two days before he called up and insisted that I should remove mygoods. There was some heated argument. The relationship I was tryingto save got spoiled and that too at the cost of my pocket i.e. at the time of transfer of flat I knew the prices have gone up and I had avalid reason not to transfer flat in his name because the deal was subject to receipt of final papers since that I did not want to spoil, I accommodated him and transferred flat in his name even Andrew never warned me. Once the flat was in his name he started showing his true colours. Even Andrew asked me not to make an issue and lift the goods. For the last two days I am very upset, I am trying to keep cool still u know everybody has limited capacity. I really don't understand what to do. Any how this all is my own flat so only I have to suffer. It is just that I wanted to share it, as I am quite upset.
ANS:Thanks for your email. I am fine and hope this email finds you doing well also. All I will tell you is that take it easy. No matter what, you have to keep control of your life. There can be nobody else who can control your circumstances. Only yesterday, I posted a blog on circumstances. Visit www.thoughtssimply.blogspot.com and you will read this blog. All I would ask you to keep in mind is that GOD is having a plan for you and everybody else. Have trust in God's plans and you will not feel thin. Forget about what Sanjay did to you. He broke the promise – he should be worried about this not you. I invite you to keep your stuff at my place and keep your mind at peace. You did keep your promise and transferred the property in his name – feel good about it and GOD will reward you for your goodness. There is another way of having peace of a conflict; especially when there is nothing you can do otherwise. Change your thinking a bit. Instead of blaming Sanjay for not keeping his promise try thanking him for teaching you a lesson that you are not to trust people anymore on their face value. And because he becomes your guru in the capicity as he was successfully able to teach you this lesson. Now it time to pay him his GURUDAKSHNA (fee) for teaching you this important lesson, go ahead and pay him the fee, "thank him for the days that he kept your stuff in his house." You will suddenly feel a relief than rage. Don't feel shock because it will only make things worse for you. Keep calm and keep thinking positively – things will work out. They always do. Once again don't worry – have trust in GOD. God is working with you on all your issues.

Circumstances

Circumstances are part of us. We more or less see ourselves in different kinds of circumstances - sometimes we like it sometimes we don't. Circumstances makes it clear to us that a certain situation cannot remain as it is. They let us know that if good time is not here - the bad will not be here forever either. They are indications of change. May be for good and may for bad. Sometimes circumstances are such that other people around us aren't willing to put up with what we do. Even when our tolerance and kindness have been exemplary, it may not be good enough in the eyes of other people who are connected to us. They may keep asking for more and more. I am in such a situation, I have to be working to get around such a stubborn impasse. I have to be proud of myself and do not lose confidence in the face of my circumstances - may be after all these circumstances are the ones which may bring a change; some unknown favourable news will propel me forward into an exciting new venture.

Married Lover may have more than you on mind

Here is someone who asked a very good question to Ellie the columnist for Toronto Star - I would like to keep it on my blog: Q: "I am a single male, 45, involved with a married coworker on and off for three years. She'd constantly complain to me about her husband but, if a problem arose between the two of us, she'd turn silent. This would frustrate me and I'd end up saying or doing something that I'd later regret. Meanwhile, her daughter got married and gave birth to a child. Recently, I called on phone to wish her a happy birthday and got the impression something was wrong. That was the last time we spoke. Again she's gone silent! I loved her, married or not, and told her I never felt this way toward anyone previously and wanted to be there for her. I now feel a void in my life and am depressed. What can I do? Ans: Affairs with married people should come with a warning sign, saying "Beware of Person's Other Life." In other words, your lover has involvements with other people you only heard about, but never knew the whole story. While your fantasy romance together seemed idyllic, she was also busy with children, a new grandchild, relatives, and far more connections and events that could distract from you permanently. That's the price of most married affairs - they end. It's time for you to figure out why this one woman was so ideal for you: Was it because you had no responsibilities beyond the romantic? Whatever the reason, If you seek a fell-time partner, you need to find one who's free, put in the same effort, and learn the benefits of a relationship that can last.

Let's have a GOOD Cup of Tea

A friend just promised that when we meet we will have a lot of tea together. In a good company tea tastes good and different. Although it is a very simple beverage, just water and leaves, but it contains worlds in it. But one should have the eye to see it that way. You know just like all the things of beauty, it is both plain and complex.
In India tea was introduced by the British – mostly tea is sipped in a very light manner. People do not have the time nor is there any custom for going into details of its beauty. In Japan tea is practiced – loved one could say. You may have known “The detailed practice of the Japanese Cha No Yu tea ceremony is meant simply to lead one fully into the present moment.” One will have to delve deeper into the tea to find how much interesting will it become. And the more interesting it becomes – the more you will love it.
Tea is you, really, it becomes whatever you want it to be. Tea is a very simple subject. It lets you be in control. It gives you a lot of choices. You are the boss. You can brew it to suit your taste and mood. Enjoy it the way you like it. Take it as is if you like. Add milk, honey, sugar, lemon, herbs, spices, or ice. Wow! Isn’t it easy?
Cost of tea can vary from very cheap to very expensive. You will find some very expensive rare teas that cost $300 a pound. But guess what, they still will cost only pennies-a-cup when brewed. Always it will be for less than the cost of a can of soda or coca cola. Also tea offers you an aroma of tea and all the complexities of a fine wine. Each cup of tea is a big nice hug – full of love and affection.

New Direction

Fortuitous events promise to bring big improvements to our lives. They help in a dramatic, drastic and thrilling new phases which begins if we work towards new direction. A new direction that you once thought you would never take may begin to look most welcoming.

Children "Born Into Brothels - Die Into Brothels"

Give me my pajamas and let me sink into my cozy Lazy Boy recliner to watch the woes, physical and mental suffering and horrifying life of the Indian helpless women and children of sex trade. Of course it is an ‘artwork’ and a ‘wonderful job’ by “Zane Briski.”

It is a known fact that everybody else makes a lot of profit by using the women and children who are involved “In this line.” So many things happen “in this line” and one of them was figured out by smart Zane Briski and she nicely ‘use it’ to get to the red carpet and proudly hold the Oscar in her two hands while the children’s hands back in brothels were still empty.

This film is based on a true story. It is not a story of the past only bit true to life it is the true story of past, present and future. It is the store of misery and cruelty of those women and children that made many people millions. I am not sure what would be the “actual payment” to the “actors” of this movie before or after Oscar.

I wonder what change would have occurred in the lives of the children of brothels. How many of these children were actually removed and sent to boarding schools? Have any women been helped?

This is not the first time people have used their smart ideas to take advantage of these peoples lives of misery and made millions out of it. It has been done before many times and perhaps will continue in the future too.

Some time ago there was another good subject “The Untouchables of India.” A lot was written and shown about the untouchables of India; the story was used of the “Dalits” many times. What has changed since then? If you want to see the real situation then you will have to go to Bihar which is the second largest state having millions of people called “Scheduled Castes”.

Zane Briski had to use children as her ‘subject’ not because she wanted to improve the lives of these children or their parents but because she will not be allowed to shoot on ‘actual sites’ which are deep inside the actual red-light area of Sonagchi in Calcutta. None of the so called ‘photographers’ will be welcome there because those ‘real actors’ would not want these photographers to use their lives to make millions.

What is the motive of this movie? Who is going to benefit from it most? The brain behind this movie was in fact unable to get into the actual sites. That is why these children were used to go and get the photographs of those ‘hard to reach’ areas which are only glimpses of the actual condition deep inside the red-light area.

In the western world if a small corporation is doing business in a certain community – it will be expected that the corporation must contribute to enhance the lives of people living in the community. Hopefully producers of this film has done something good ‘for this red-light community’ which was used to make this profitable film?

“Born into Brothels” will become just another movie in our DVD collection in the western homes. Those women will continue “in their line of business” to feed their children. I wonder if Zane know how many men must a woman serve before she will be able to earn enough to feed her family. What are these women and children face in reality on day-to-day basis?

Well done Zane Briski – good job. I hope it has not only helped you but also those people who helped you. You are able to do this movie because of the children who are “born into brothels”. Well done Zane Briski – well done. May God help you more so that you may get more such opportunities to help these ‘less fortunate?’ Hope with your help the children who are “BORN INTO BROTHELS” wouldn’t at least “DIE INTO BROTHELS”.

Can a relationship be called "friendship" between a man & a woman?

Friendly relationship between man and woman although will have many words here and there but the most commonly used words in English are “I trust you and I love you.” I don’t know for sure but think these words can cause huge pressure on the relationship.

Although it can be in any relationship but in particular a relationship between a man and a woman there will be a time when the ‘trust’ becomes an important issue. It becomes even a major issue if money is also involved. Many people find this issue to be a very difficult one. For many people as soon as the time to part with money comes they become more suspicious. It happens even when they are to pay for their own commitments and from which they have saved a lot of time, money and energy. To them relationship suddenly becomes a difficult one.Some people believe that it is okay to lie about some issues to a person that you call your friend. Their argument would be that it was necessary to do so and even feel proud that they did that and still have a very healthy relationship.

Anthony (name changed) migrated to Canada and is being asked by his friend (Jennifer) for help in her family’s migration to Canada. Jennifer found out that the consultants in the market would charge her over US$5000 to do the same job which she wants Anthony to get done for free. This is a friendship and especially between a man and a woman. Has Anthony placed himself in an extremely vulnerable position agreeing to help Jennifer in this matter? Anthony wanted to be upfront and informed Jennifer that he will do so for her but she should know that there are some expenses that will be incurred on the way and he expect that those will be paid by her. Also that Anthony will help her do all what is necessary but she should be aware that Anthony is not an expert, even though he has successfully helped many people including his own brother, things may not work out successfully. Also that if her application is rejected for any reason that she might have to hire a lawyer that will cost her much more money because it becomes a legal issue. At the same time he assured and let Jennifer know that he will help her the same way as he did in the case of his own brother who got the immigration for Canada and spent a little less than US$1500.

She agrees and ‘on trust’ Anthony starts the process for and on her behalf. It takes over 10 months and hundreds of hours of Anthony’s time to find, consult and collect information on Jennifer’s behalf. He wrote and received Jennifer’s emails in this regards for all these months. He collects all the information from Jennifer and her family to prepare the paperwork. Jennifer too in return kept sending all the information required to do her job. Anthony has already spent close to C$1000.00 in out of pocket expenses by the time all information is completed and applications are filled in. He is able to get the things done and is hoping that Jennifer will not even spend the kind of money his brother spent because so many things he did by himself and charged her nothing for those.

Anthony by this time has done all what he could for his friend and has paid all the out-of-pocket expenses too. A lot of thoughts kept coming into his mind about this kind of a relationship. He found out that people want you to be helpful and trustworthy. People expect you to help them in achieving their goals. These are the goals from which they would benefit. They ask for your help; making you to believe that they trust you. People want you to help them in saving their money – because they found out already, it costs them huge if they go on their own. They want to use your expertise and experience. They want you to be their personal consultant without cost. They will choose the subject on which they want your help and on which they don’t. You just help them on the subjects that they choose to ask you about.

He found out one more thing that there are ‘men’ people and there are ‘women’ people. They all have their own way of asking for help. He feels that his experience with the ‘women people’ is that somehow they have a feeling that asking help from a ‘man’ is a privilege that is being granted to the ‘man’ who is given an opportunity to be ‘women’s’ help provider. It is the ‘man’ who will have to provide ‘trustworthy certificate’ even when he is helping for free.

He says, “I trust people because I trust myself. Not that my trust is not broken by anybody, but because, I think it is important to trust people. You got to trust people on almost all things. Some people you are able to trust more than the others. You trust your mother the most. By trusting others you learn how to trust yourself.”

He found out that woman friend is always on guard about the descriptions of past and present relationships, they will always be listening and talking with their ‘head’ and would want the man in relationship to believe that it is their ‘heart’ which do the same. They tend to protect themselves even more under stress. Some people are unable to handle stress and begin to tell fat lies. This does not make them untrustworthy but in reality they are unable to control stress in this relationship. Well, not necessarily that all will lie when under stress. It only means that the people who do so just don’t know any other healthier way to handle the relationship when in stress.

And then Anthony has another feeling…”few people are the kinds who now have developed this as a habit. Once they find out that it works to their advantage; they always begin to add some lies to the actual truth. By doing this they achieve someone’s attention, sympathy and commitment towards them.

Robert (name changed) and Anthony were friends from West Africa. They became friends because Robert’s elder brother Raju was Anthony’s good friend. Robert was coming to Africa for business visits and both soon became good friends. Not known to Anthony Robert would soon end this promising friendship because he did not fully gave himself in and because he could not keep the relationship in an honest way. Robert will soon take one of the trusted employees and hire him without letting Anthony know about it. And when Anthony’s wife Anna (name changed) confronts Robert about this broken trust, he begins to tell lies. Anthony calls it the cycle of broken trust and his lies a life style of a person. How could have Robert saved this relationship? What would be the best way to develop a pattern that will lead to long lasting healthy relationship? A relationship in which there is no greed, selfishness or bad faith? Could it have been possible if Robert would treat himself in a better way? Can Robert do it by loving himself and liking himself? May be by doing so he becomes more confident about himself and begin to love him with proud. May be this will give him a reason to be proud of and trust himself as someone special. And once he begins to treat himself with respect; when he begin to feel good about himself; when he begin to feel honest and open minded; perhaps it will be a new beginning and a positive move towards finding out your own ability to detect dishonesty within you.

It is a known fact that people who take good care of themselves will not so much need others to help them. May be Anthony too will have to change his way of taking care of himself. Taking others simply at their face value will have to be stopped. Anthony will have to take his time to make judgments about other people; he will have to stop and think ‘why am I taking this quick decision?’ He will have to change a little bit too when many people has shown a consistent pattern of untrustworthiness over time.

In a relationship between a man and a woman there is an old guard issue. Not all but most woman will be on guard just because the other person is a man. They would be on guard feeling this man may get in this relationship because he wants to have sex with me. Well, it happens too. Many men do get in this type of relationship only for sex but then it can not be true for all men. But then there are women too who gets into this kind of a relationship only for sex – so we cannot create a pattern out of such relationships. It is true that many people have invested a lot of their time, energy and even money in such relationships and have been betrayed.

It is not easy to say if these people who caused pain and suffering by betraying others should get the same in return; however the people who got betrayed for sure their heart will ach for a long time to come and they will begin to fear the relationships.

It is a difficult question to answer as to what the person who broke the trust would get in return. But the person who suffered will surely be holding some degree of grudge inside. It is a possibility that even if this person does not follow the footsteps of the person who has broken his heart there will always be chances that he may not easily accept anybody else into a new relationship for a long time.

Are you available for friendship?

I found out a few things about when I am out looking for new friends. May be there are some people out there who knows the art of making friends. Some might have developed some nice tricks over the years too. Going along the way, I discovered a few things about myself. I feel the need to discuss them with me and see if I can record a thing of two. I am gone to a Diwali party. Landing there I found myself standing in a crowded big hall. People are scattered in groups and pairs. All the chattering groups look unwelcoming - there seems to be no openings. I began wandering around throwing my unfocused gaze here and there suggesting that I am looking for someone to talk to. Am I shy? I asked myself. No you are not shy at all, came the answer from me. Well, I am not shy, but kind of deprived of courage by the thought that I should walk up to another wandering stranger. But that is exactly what I will have to do if I do not want to spend the rest of the evening standing alone, talking to myself. Dauntless, at last I walk up to the first single man I see. "Hello n Happy Diwali", I am Anil and I recently migrated to Canada. It is for me like as if I had to undergo an emotional speculation; as if I am forcing my self on a person in spite of resistence by asking "are you available for friendship for this evening?"

Feelings

Powerful feelings make it hard for me to think straight. Whenever emotions run high, my logic tends to lie low. It can not compete with the intensity of any unreasonable mood. I try hard to stop my feelings run amok, but try not to suppress them at the same time. I know suppression is not good for me. Although it happens that I would like to do one thing. But some invisible force, though, seems determined to ensure that I do another. Whatever I decide, make it a decision that I put my heart and soul into. This is my world - the world that I live in , breath in and the waorld that I share with many other people. I see, feel and know that people living around me may like to maintain a big scary vision of a world gone horribly wrong. But that attitude only ends up proving the old adage: “That which you fear will come upon you.” I think I have the ability to perfect life despite its great lack of perfection.

I must move on...

When the wind blows strong it is easier to be driven along than to consciously catch a more subtle breeze. I can steer my vessel by altering the sails I put up. And then, if I am still not happy with my direction, what stops me to choose a different one? By doing this I am gaining experience and getting smarter. My desire to move ahead in a vital area of my life is suddenly looking superb. Of course, it does not mean nothing can go wrong. Plenty can. But even if it does, I know, it will sort itself out.

I will help you my friend but keep calm please...

On a day-to-day basis I find people in a haste to get few things done. Some of these people who call me friend seek my help in some of their work. I try and help as soon as I can, I make sure they know that I will do this without hurting myself. I will help with all my sincere knowledge and will not harm them knowingly. I will save them time and money wherever I can but they should understand my problems too. I too have to do certain things for myself, my work and my family. I too am time pressed. It would naturally be more acceptable to have certain urgent issues settled as swiftly as possible on behalf of my friends, so they can get this worry off their mind quickly. Still, I think haste is inadvisable, and, particularly when a lot of details are involved to be taken care of. I tell my friends to stay calm, stay confident and you'll get the best possible results at the end. I am aware that our hasty nature creates storm within us, but once this cosmic storm is over with the power of your ability to keep calm - you will find less of a need to address a constant onslaught of challenges. Power will swing your way. It will get your sails in the right position to catch a halcyon breeze. The horizon will suddenly be looking good.

Richness of Nature - Source of my inspiration

Anne Frank: The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be and that God wishes to see people happy, amidst the simple beauty of nature.
Monet: The richness I achieve comes from Nature, the source of my inspiration.

Excerpts from my email correspondence...

In (Oct. 31, 2005): ...this all is for your knowledge only, the level 'this man' (name removed) is stooping for money. Tomarrow is Diwali. Both the children are in festive mood. They are enjoying every moment. We all at New Delhi wish you all a very veryHappy and Prosperous Diwali. May God bless you all and Ma Lakshmishowers blessings on you...

OUT (Oct. 31, 2005): ....I am really not sure what to write about this matter in particular but I know for sure that it is NOT money that makes us happy - and it is NOT money that will ever. The more money we have - the more we want - greed goes higher and higher. I have seen with my own EXPERIENCE of many years that instead of filling the vacuum, money has created it for sure.

I LOVE MONEY - MONEY is a good thing. We do not bring money with us - we make it here on earth. It is a good thing to have money. It is also good to have things that money buys BUT it is also good TOO to keep checking now and then and make sure that we HAVEN'T LOST THE THINGS MONEY CANNOT BUY.

I am happy for our children on the Diwali and sad for the people who got killed in the blasts in New Delhi on Saturday. I know those people were not our immediate family but they were people like us. It could have been anybody. I felt sad for their untimely and horrible deaths in this season of festivals...

Change is a must...

A lot of things happen in everybody’s life on a daily basis – so I guess it’s nothing special when I feel the same about myself. I have seen a lot of changes in my life and feel there a lot more on its way. I prepare myself for yet another day of change followed by a tomorrow. I am sometimes not able to accept the change in a positive manner – I can see my failure to accept change with happiness. Change makes me sad when I don’t like it. My initial reaction to the recent imposition of an unavoidable change wasn’t good, I know that within myself. I know it is my weakness. I even struggled to make an extra effort to try escape the coming inevitable outcome which kind of made me afraid. This morning when I was praying; I learned something different from my own inner voice; it whispered, “…there is an unknown serendipitous reason for this development; accept it as it comes, there is a reason for this and you will soon discover it.”

Who Am I ??? I don't know - DO YOU ??

Am I someone who is sometimes wrong also or am I someone who is always right? Do I know what is wrong and what is right? Am I a person who has the capability to separate the wrong from the fight? Do I laugh and make others laugh? Do I laugh to forget or do I forget to laugh? Am I someone who has given wounds and also helped in healing of the wounds? Do I see the scars over the wound or wound under the scar? Do I see with my eyes open or do I see with my eyes closed? How often do I use and believe both my eyes and ears? Do I close my eyes when I open my ears? Am I a friend or an enemy? Do I feel happy for other’s success or do I feel jealous? Does my hurt feel a burn of jealousy or a cool happiness for a new home my friend just bought? Do I find difficult finding opportunities or I find opportunities in all difficulties of my life. Do I live my life to the fullest or just live waiting to die? Do I enjoy each and every moment whenever I am with my friends or I just wait for them to leave? Do I see the thorns and rose together or do I only see the rose? Am I sad for the pain of others or am I bust only with my own happiness? Am I really happy with what I think is happiness or I am just pretending that I am? Am I a bad pretender or I can pretend skillfully? Do I love people or do I hate them? Do I love myself of do I hate myself? Who am I? Do I know???

Happy Halloween...Nov. 01, 2005

Happy Diwali Everyone Nov. 01, 2005

HAPPY DIWALI...EVERYONE

Disagreement? - This is about my feelings...simply

Almost everyday and nearly every one of us finds ourselves involved in disagreements. It could happen with our own child when we ask them to clean their room, dealing with a person’s bad attitude, or gaining the cooperation of any significant other in our personal life, arguments make us feel tense and uneasy. We find ourselves feeling bad, which finally ends in frustration and anger. Can any one of us imagine experiencing all of those negative emotions on a daily basis? You are probably thinking, "I do! But, if most people are like me isn’t this type of negative reaction perfectly natural?" It may be natural. However, I think, it is not necessary. Let us try and reflect a minute or two about our attitude toward disagreement. Is it possible that someone taught us that disagreeing with others is rude, arrogant, combative, aggressive or self-centered? Does the word "disagreement" create a negative reaction in us? If the answer is "yes," STOP. Let us suspend our belief for the next few moments to consider the positive aspects of disagreement. Our negative belief in disagreement could be the very thing preventing us from achieving the status, power and outrageous successes we passionately desire. Disagreements are merely differences in opinion. They are not shouting matches. They are not about winning or losing. When we disagree, we are simply stating how we feel, what we want, what we believe or how far we are willing to go. It is an expression of our morals, ethics and belief system. It defines our personal boundaries of behavior. Doesn't it?

Delhi Terror - What should we do now....???

During one of the busiest shopping days when people stroll through crowded markets in New Delhi and all over India- a colorful season when India strung with colourful bulbs - everyone is buying an extra box of sweets - this extra-sugary sweets are gift of love and affection to some other people who can be our next door neighbors - our relatives or friends. Whom to point at when a pleasantly cool Saturday evening explodes in fire and terror? May be some of our own people have done it - they could be our own neighbors - they could be living just next door. They might still enjoy the gift of our sweets. How can we feel good about the season when some of our own are gone. Can we or should we stop feeling good? Should we stop trusting people? What should we human do when something like this happens? When we feel good, we think the best of other people. If we are going through bad times, we see the devil in everyone. But everyone is not devil - due to some people's act of terror, we have started seeing things that way. The best way to fix a problematic situation like this is to once again start feeling good. And that will help the others do the same too. Is it easy - sure not but we have no other alternative. Stop trusting people will not take us anywhere. We may have to mend our way of thinking - it will then become much easier to feel good - it will seem as if there is now a new alternative in place of an old mended original mindset. This will give us an opportunity for forgive and to create a new way of thinking - may be something better than before. Let us try to do the opposite of what we would normally do in such a situation, let us try to love and care - even when we may have been thinking about bombing them in return. Let us pull them towards and close to our hearts where we think we are supposed to push them into same kind of terror. Let us give ourselves the satisfaction of knowing we have tried everything, even the illogical. A forgiving thought may fix the problems - if we inclined to see ourselves as victims of circumstances, we ultimately will find that this vision proves true. Each and every notion that passes through our mind needs to be closely scrutinized. We can not do what they did. What they did is very wrong but we don't have to do the same wrong....

General Public - Get Killed & be Happy....

Bombs, Shootings, Killings, War - this is is happening all around us everyday. All we see in the media is the disturbing graphic images of part of us (General Public) being killed and then various politicians starting from the city level to the federal level and then to the international level coming out of their well guarded mansions to tell us "Keep Calm - Everything is under control". All politicians face the flashing cameras to make different kinds of pre-written statements..."We shall defeat their nefarious designs and will not allow them to succeed. We are resolute in our commitment to fighting terrorism." says one and "We have lots of information but it is not proper to disclose it yet", says another. And we the general public keep believing them - we trust them every time. Every time part of us is killed - we have been asked to "don't worry" and we have been asked to "keep going on our daily routine without any fear". But security for our leaders will be beefed up - their meetings will be cancelled and rescheduled to take place at "more secure locations". We the public will still have to use the same roads, same markets and the same bullets. And we will once again trust our leaders to "forget" everything and "vote" them once again. We are General Public - we have very short memory - our minds are fickle - we forget that many of us have been deceived but once our leaders tell us to "forget, keep smiling and be happy"... we the public as obedient as ever yet again "smile and be happy" we once again take a bullet right in the middle of our forehead and forget it is for real there are no cameras, no flashes, no media...they will all come 'later' to count how many of us died and to talk to our 'leaders' who will once again talk to the remaining of us and tell them..."DON'T WORRY - BE HAPPY"...

WHY PEOPLE KILL PEOPLE???

While I was busy in Toronto doing blogs on myself, my family and people who are close to me, some people were busy making plans to kill other people in New Delhi, India. On 29th October, 2005 three bomb blasts killed several innocent people. People from all walks of lives – people of all religions – people of all skins. But one thing all had in common their blood was red. After their bodies were taken away behind left was a lot of blood – all mixed up? There was Christian blood mixed up with Hindu blood and both of these got mixed up with Muslim blood and then all with some Sikh blood also there was blood of those mixed with these who believed in no God and no religion. Cameras of the media were unable to catch any blood of green color or blue for that matter. It was all red – only red. No authority after the bombing was able to find out which blood was for which religion. There were different numbers given by different authorities, “29 killed” one authority said and “75 killed” said another. No matter how many people got killed the fact is that people got killed – and got killed by fellow people only. Why people kill people??? What reason can be big enough to kill people who will have nothing to do with the reason at the first place? Can you see in the eyes of this mother - what wrong her daughter did to deserve such a death?? Such actions of people makes me cry. Makes me sad and makes me to think as to where are we all heading towards???

I'm the boss in my house...

Definitely I am the boss in my house and it is me who gave powers to my wife for 'making all decisions'. My children too know it very well that their Dad is the boss and the HEAD of the family. My son in particular admires his father and notes his 'superiority' - "Yes Dad is the HEAD and 'poor' Mom is only the NECK of our family..."

Simply, God's biggest gift to me ever...

Can you see me in this photograph? Look closely and you would. These are the people who belong to me and to whom I belong. My own – can you see in this picture my past? Do you see my present at the same time; and how about my future? These are my people who show me path, hold my hand and wipe my tears. Their eyes are my mirrors. Their faces are my strength. Their complaints are my learning tools. Their smiles work on me like magic. To me, this is simply God’s biggest gift ever…

Why do I love you? Selfishness Simply...???

Why do I love you? Is it for you or my own self? I think I love you not only for what you are but for also what I am when I am with you. I love you not for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me too. I love you for the part of me that you bring out of me. I love you for putting your hand into my heaped up heart and passing over all the foolish and frivolous and weak things that you can't help dimly seeing there and for drawing out into the light all the beautiful radiant belongings that on one else had looked quite enough to find. I love you for ignoring the possibilities of the fool and weakling in me, and for laying firm hold on the possibilities of the good in me. I love you for closing your ears to the discords in me and for adding to the music in me by worshipful listening. I love you because you are helping me to take of the timber of my life not a tavern, but a temple, and of the words of my every day not a reproach, but a song.

Friendship

Friendship for me is not what I take from others, but what I am able to give to others - not so much the material gifts but as the gifts of compassion, sincerity and understanding. Friendship is not a game we play. I have to have time for my friend. I must make myself available in the time of need. Being available means...to take an initiative, write a letter, make a phonecall, send an email, stop for just a visit; even if it isn't my 'turn'. There are 'no turns' in friendship. Being available means altering my own plans to accommodate to listen - not only to what a friend is saying but what a friend is not saying or is trying to say but cannot.

This is ME simply

I can not change anything about myself still I am the 'king', yes king of myself. I drive my self (crazy sometimes) - rule myself. Smile is all I have to show you...smile is all what you want to see. My sorrows are for myself. So keep smiling - don't worry and BE HAPPY...

Loneliness

...My soul at times likes to walk alone. Is it a good idea to be with your loneliness - I wonder. My loneliness makes me something different, at different times. I like to become lonesome, even lifeless occasionally; just a stone on the roadside. I become a bone sometimes inside my friends body - even my enemy's and sometimes inside my own body too. A bone as strong and dead as a stone with life running inside and around making it feel full of life. Inside the bone runs hot bone marrow like lava and around it runs red hot burning blood. I am dead because I am a bone but inside me and outside me there is life, a lot of it. Burning, dark red and as hot as blood inside my body. Have I been turned into a receptacle for my own blood...Or is it the blood which I may have sucked out of other fellow human...???