Married Lover may have more than you on mind

Here is someone who asked a very good question to Ellie the columnist for Toronto Star - I would like to keep it on my blog: Q: "I am a single male, 45, involved with a married coworker on and off for three years. She'd constantly complain to me about her husband but, if a problem arose between the two of us, she'd turn silent. This would frustrate me and I'd end up saying or doing something that I'd later regret. Meanwhile, her daughter got married and gave birth to a child. Recently, I called on phone to wish her a happy birthday and got the impression something was wrong. That was the last time we spoke. Again she's gone silent! I loved her, married or not, and told her I never felt this way toward anyone previously and wanted to be there for her. I now feel a void in my life and am depressed. What can I do? Ans: Affairs with married people should come with a warning sign, saying "Beware of Person's Other Life." In other words, your lover has involvements with other people you only heard about, but never knew the whole story. While your fantasy romance together seemed idyllic, she was also busy with children, a new grandchild, relatives, and far more connections and events that could distract from you permanently. That's the price of most married affairs - they end. It's time for you to figure out why this one woman was so ideal for you: Was it because you had no responsibilities beyond the romantic? Whatever the reason, If you seek a fell-time partner, you need to find one who's free, put in the same effort, and learn the benefits of a relationship that can last.