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Disagreement? - This is about my feelings...simply
Almost everyday and nearly every one of us finds ourselves involved in disagreements. It could happen with our own child when we ask them to clean their room, dealing with a person’s bad attitude, or gaining the cooperation of any significant other in our personal life, arguments make us feel tense and uneasy. We find ourselves feeling bad, which finally ends in frustration and anger. Can any one of us imagine experiencing all of those negative emotions on a daily basis? You are probably thinking, "I do! But, if most people are like me isn’t this type of negative reaction perfectly natural?" It may be natural. However, I think, it is not necessary. Let us try and reflect a minute or two about our attitude toward disagreement. Is it possible that someone taught us that disagreeing with others is rude, arrogant, combative, aggressive or self-centered? Does the word "disagreement" create a negative reaction in us? If the answer is "yes," STOP. Let us suspend our belief for the next few moments to consider the positive aspects of disagreement. Our negative belief in disagreement could be the very thing preventing us from achieving the status, power and outrageous successes we passionately desire. Disagreements are merely differences in opinion. They are not shouting matches. They are not about winning or losing. When we disagree, we are simply stating how we feel, what we want, what we believe or how far we are willing to go. It is an expression of our morals, ethics and belief system. It defines our personal boundaries of behavior. Doesn't it?
Almost everyday and nearly every one of us finds ourselves involved in disagreements. It could happen with our own child when we ask them to clean their room, dealing with a person’s bad attitude, or gaining the cooperation of any significant other in our personal life, arguments make us feel tense and uneasy. We find ourselves feeling bad, which finally ends in frustration and anger. Can any one of us imagine experiencing all of those negative emotions on a daily basis? You are probably thinking, "I do! But, if most people are like me isn’t this type of negative reaction perfectly natural?" It may be natural. However, I think, it is not necessary. Let us try and reflect a minute or two about our attitude toward disagreement. Is it possible that someone taught us that disagreeing with others is rude, arrogant, combative, aggressive or self-centered? Does the word "disagreement" create a negative reaction in us? If the answer is "yes," STOP. Let us suspend our belief for the next few moments to consider the positive aspects of disagreement. Our negative belief in disagreement could be the very thing preventing us from achieving the status, power and outrageous successes we passionately desire. Disagreements are merely differences in opinion. They are not shouting matches. They are not about winning or losing. When we disagree, we are simply stating how we feel, what we want, what we believe or how far we are willing to go. It is an expression of our morals, ethics and belief system. It defines our personal boundaries of behavior. Doesn't it?
