Shush...forget about Past...think present & future

I wrote an email to my friend Anil:

"Dear Anil:
Please I desperately need to buy back my past, as a professional and my friend (AND SOMEONE WHO ONLY KNOWS EVERYTHING ABOUT MY PAST) could you please HELP ME?
Regards,
Anil"

Somebody elase told me "YOU ARE NOT RICH ENOUGH TO BUY BACK YOUR PAST".... then there is another idea from my friend Anil. Don't you think he is very clear on the subject and writes to the point. Don't you find his point of view interesting? See he says "present and future" are more beautiful than the "past". Read on...

"My Dear Anil,

What is Past?

Why some one loves Past?

Because

Past was easy as we all have successfully done it, enjoyed it, suffered it, overcome it, availed it, seen it, achieved it, Irrespective of the degree of enjoyment, sufferings and achievements. We even do not clearly remember as if we have enjoyed it fully or it could have been further improved.

So

Past is not some thing to buy back. It is some thing which teaches us, makes us more experienced and capable of differentiating between good and bad, joy & sorrow, achievement or failure, A young person is happier and joyful as he has not much to compare, whatever he does is an achievement. For Example: “When I bought my first LPG gas connection and gas stove I was happier than when I bought 4000 Sq Ft of residential flat at J-1, Kailash Colony - Out of these two achievements the former gave me more happiness and sense of achievement”.

Now does this mean that I should buy another gas stove or should I see future?

Darling, I am not sure what makes you think that past was good and u want to buy back. Past is an examination, which you have already passed and have learnt some lessons out of it and now it looks easier. Whereas present is the examination for which u are undergoing preparation and working hard for it. May be it is looking difficult and the result is uncertain, But that was so in the past also, but we do not remember those difficult time.

Every body in this world is working for the present and future. Past is kept as memories, some good and some bad, some good people we miss, some good decisions taken in the past encourages us to take further decisions and some bad decisions scare us but we must believe in ourselves, we must take care of ourselves, we must think of our own welfare first, thereafter we must believe in our ideas, thoughts and then we must believe in our own people and who are our own people?

The answer is those people whom we have been able to convince about our ideas and thoughts, Lets all work under these thoughts and the present and future would be more beautiful than past. We both would live present and future, while sharing the memories and learning of past.
With this my friend I wish u all the best for the present and future
LET’S HAVE FAITH IN ‘HIM’
Anil

I see 'HIM" in You...

Dear Anil:

To write to a friend we need to have a friend. To fulfill the need to make yourself happy we need a lot of happiness. To get a lot of happiness we have to make everybody happy around us. To have a lot of happy people around us, we have to be happy people ourselves. To become happy people ourselves, we have to love ourselves. To love ourselves we need to understand love. To understand love we need to love as much as possible. To love as much as possible we need lots of people around us. We need God to...
To live, to love
To love, to be loved
To be loved, to care
To care, to share
To share, to give
To give, to get
To get, to not regret
To not regret, to be happy
To be happy, to enjoy
To enjoy, to control
To control, to maintain
To maintain, to be thankful
To be thankful, to Him
To be Him, to wait
To wait, to miss
To miss, to be patient
To be patient, to be optimistic
To be optimistic, to dream
To dream, to shatter
To shatter, to rise again
To rise again, to be hopeful again
To be hopeful again, to do your best
To do your best, n leave the rest(on) "HIM"!
"Him" is my God, Him is what I love, Him is what is there for me everytime I look for Him, Him is what is real God. I see Him in my friends. I want you to know that I see "HIM" in you.
-ANil

Another Change 4th July 2006

When a movie nears the end, it becomes apparent with the build-up to the climax. Likewise, the crescendo of activity that's currently building up in my world seems a promise of deliverance. I have once again taken a very bold step of carrer change. I sold off Kemol on July 4th 2006 and will be now getting into a new line of business.

A rising sense of irritation is being matched by a chance to do something constructive. I am aware something good is happening, but unaware how useful it is. Soon, I'll find out.

I am fully aware that great ideas do not, on their own, make people successful. Nor do outstanding talents. I will have to have the raw materials to achieve a certain goal. I will have to work towards it and work hard.

I know that someone out there who is known to me knows what I need to know. So without further adieu, I will have to move swiftly and do what I have to do. A triumph and a wonderful change await me if I pluck up the courage and ask. I will.

People and I

I don’t know what the perfect way is. I have been searching for it all my life. I feel no matter how far I wander down the road in a search of the perfect way, there will always be further to go. I have been pushing myself but it seems I will have to now avoid pushing myself too far in an impossible direction. That does not mean I will not move further. Only I will go further in a wise one.

I know there are techniques I need to use in my attempts to get success. I sometimes feel I have a far better technique or resource than the one that I am attempting to use. Why am I unable to tap on my own recourses? I do not know. May be I have to make an extra effort. Perhaps an extra effort spent trying to find it will save me the time and trouble.

At this age and after meeting thousands of people during my journey, it is hard to understand people. I don’t know if it is my inability or truly people are changing attitudes. For me it is hard to understand people. People of real character are becoming scarce. Should I be or shouldn’t be proud of what makes me different, I don’t know. Some people appreciate me for sure but some might hate me too.

To some people I don't seem to be making sense at all. It seems the development of sophisticated thought and its articulation through civilized language has passed them by.

The house does not rest upon the ground, but upon a woman

There is a Mexican proverb "The house does not rest upon the ground, but upon a woman". Why woman and why not man, you may ask. Woman always had and will have a upper hand. It is woman who will have to say "yes" before a "deal is sealed" between the man and a woman. They say woman has a special ability to see beyond man's eyes. It is the woman who chooses a man well later this is the same man who chooses the woman. Woman are weak and woman are strong. Do you go how weak it looks. Tea bags look very pale and white but as soon as dipped into hot water the tea is strong. They are stronger than stones. Their beauty is what makes men crazy. Someone told me "if you stare a beautiful woman for too long - you will turn into a stone". It seems true to me. What do you think?

Night Thoughts

Night thoughts come and stay with me. A lot of random thoughts. Thougths of my childhood, thoughts of some events of various places that I have been to with my parents and family. A lot of thoughts. Some make sense some don't. Sometimes I wait for the thoughts to arrive after I land in my bed. Where are these thoughts stored? How come some thoughts are much more clearer than the others? Some thoughts will make me cry and some will make me smile.

Medieval mindset never leaves us -RD Bhardwaj

New Delhi, India
June 26, 2006

Please refer to the story “Dalit woman sarpanch in MP”.

With reference to the news item Dalit woman sarpanch paraded naked in MP (Hindustan dated the 23rd June), it is really very shocking and disgusting that a Dalit woman sarpanch of Maoikala village of district Chattarpur in Madhya Pradesh, has been beaten-up (along with her two sons) and paraded naked by the gun-wielding local goons, after she refused to give them money from the village panchayat fund.

It is even worse than outraging the modesty of a woman. Almost 58 springs have passed since India reached the horizon of independence, but the rich high caste villagers, who were earlier running the village affairs according to their whims and fancies and inflicting indiscriminate atrocities on the Dalits, are still not able to digest the fact that India has embraced democracy and every developmental work is done according to some rules, policies and procedures, laid down for it.

The medieval mindset of rich landlords has not undergone the desired psychological framework, so as to make them compatible with the changing times.

Secondly, it was totally unfair for those village goondas to demand money as they thought that a Dalit woman sarpanch did not know how to spend the panchayat funds for the development of their village. Since, she is an elected sarpanch; it was well within her power to decide the matter after having consultation with other panches of the village.

The high-handedness of the high caste people (Shuklas and their henchmen) really deserves to be dealt with sternly and they should be better thrown to the place, which they badly deserve i.e. behind the bars. As such incorrigible upper caste people are simply not digesting the erosion of their age-old dominance; they should better shift from the village where only the rule of democratic set-up prevails.

Thirdly, as they are misusing their arms for the victimization and harassment of the poor and the Dalits, license of Shukla’s gun should be cancelled/forfeited and the guns should be taken back and put into police custody. Heavy financial penalty should also be imposed on all the perpetrators of crime so that it serves as a deterrent for further perversion in society.

Incidentally, a woman (Mrs Girija Vyas) heads the National Commission for Women; she should be in a better position to comprehend the damage and insult done to the modesty of another woman in such a scenario. Accordingly, this matter should be taken very seriously and maximum punishment should be awarded to all the people involved in the said crime, who disrobed the woman, particularly, holding a constitutional position.

That shall be the only way of dealing with such perverted minds and doing due justice to the lady unduly victimized.

Death makes us to forget & forgive Life

In life you meet people, look at them from a different point of views in the beginning and later change the way you think about them. Sometimes we take some people as ordinary people but as soon as you get to know them a little closely your views change and you wonder how this can be. Because of our human nature and because God gave us humans a very long life - we meet thousands of people in our lives. Some we never think about again. Some, we wonder what happened to them. There are some that you wonder if they ever think about you. And then there are some you wish you never had to think about again. But you do. I know it’s a very very complex subject. Complex matters and subjects are very difficult to deal with, especially when they are required to be dealt with 100% honesty. No matter how perfect one is it still is difficult. They say that nobody is perfect and then they turn around and tell you that practice makes one perfect. But then these are matters which we can not practice with - can we?

Silence is so beautiful - and then they said it that if one can not understand your silence it will be hard for them to understand your words. Silence sometimes speaks so loudly that we wonder how not we hear it before that time. Remember people do not die for nothing - death and silence are two who work together - just like silence death must be so beautiful too. You lie in the soft brown earth, become ash and flow with the rivers, help grass to grow all over, and listen to silence forever. Death makes you free forever, you will not have no yesterday, no mistakes to worry about, and of course not tomorrow. Death makes us to forget about time, it helps us to forgive life; the last fact is that it helps us to be at peace forever. Isn't that beautiful?

Leave Your Problems to God...

====Letter to a friend who lost job recently and is facing a lot of problems on various fronts of life at this time====

Hi Friend,

I know you must be going through a lot of hard thinking and trying to
solve a lot of things that you might see as problems. I know almost
everybody will come forward to give you advise but what I will do is
to tell you what I do during these kinds of times. To me the best
solutions to problems will not be the result of hard thinking. Let us
use our time better by creating peaceful thoughts, and problems will
cease to affect us. Let us not try to solve everything on our own.
Leave some space for God to come and help us.

The above thought has been very helpful for me and for some people
around, who think lot or keep on thinking constantly on problems,
which they face on day-to-day basis.

I read in Bhagawat-Gita that we face problems, feel tensed or unhappy,
because we forget our connection or relationship with God. If we have
solid faith in God and know that he is always there with us then we
can easily come out from any difficult situation. I feel we need to
understand that we always backed by the Great Divine Force, so having
Faith on God is very important. God has all the solutions. Just engage
yourself with him.

Our thoughts create our destiny. Through our thoughts if we learn to
be with God then we can think positively and peacefully. Peacefulness
reveals the all possibilities naturally without thinking hard. So key
point is connection with God that gives us Peacefulness and Peaceful
mind can come over on any difficult problem easily.

I have already and invite you to come forward and leave all your
problems to God and you will see things will begin to change.

Remain blessed, trust in God, Keep smiling and don't worry...

Regards,
Anil

Sahib - Sahiba - Friends

Met a lady from Pakistan recently and she called me "Anil SAHIB"... I don't think anybody before has called me SAHIB. To me SAHIBA is more prettier to be used than Sahib. My observation....

Assalam O Aleikum SAHIBA,

"Sahiba" is (the female form of Sahib). Sahib came from Arabic
language originally and means.."friend, companion". Later it was used
for "Lord". Now a days in Hindi and Bengali this word means "Sir,
Master or, primarily, Lord". In British India in feudal and colonial
times, Sahib was also a formal style, used on its own or as an
additional title, for native aristocrats, including rulers of some
princely states and/or certain members of their dynasties. In short
Sahib & Sahiba means: a) Friend and companion b) Master c) Lord d) Sir
. Thanks for adding "Sahib" behind Anil. No one ever before did that -
you are the first one. Less are the people in this world who are so
respectful to others. Thank you. I trust you did not mean "Sahib" as
or anything close to like: b) Master c) Lord d) Sir...did you? Friend
and companion is what I meant when I used Sahiba behind your name.

If you have some time, I invite you to visit my blog web at:
www.thoughtssimply.blogspot.com

Khuda Hafiz,
Anil

My best friend writes back...

...from my best friend to me... (4 days after my letter to him)

My Dear Anil

I have gone thru your thoughts twice and then once again and then once again. The reason is not that I could not understand but I was enjoying it and feeling proud of having u as my only friend. I was also feeling jealous as I may not be able to write like this and I was also feeling pity on the educational qualifications India bestows upon us, which would not make us capable of writing such beautiful things. I am not only referring to the English and rhythm in the thoughts but also to the clarity of thoughts and the ease in which it was written. I congratulate u on creating such as marvelous piece of art.

Now, dear Anil, I come across many partnership proposals in my professional routine and I witness the situations from entering into partnership like marriage; achieving the common goals of wealth creation and living the life happily better than once own individual capabilities; combining the resources and multiplying the effect; overcoming each others weakness; complementing the each ones strengths; mixing enjoyment and entertainment with the business and have also witnessed disasters, which are even worst than my words can communicate.

My professional analysis of factors for successful or worst situations are more practical than emotional, which I can enumerate as under in the order of their efficacy : -

1 Transparency in disclosures and representations before entering in to partnership
2 Utmost transparency and sharing of information during operations, which include recording of transactions and joint decisions
3 Contribution of each partner to the business, which should be maintained parallel to the rewards in the long run.
4 The Ego should be made out of bound and write suggestion and commercial proposition should be accepted, irrespective of the source.
5 A review of situation at regular intervals, specially for discussing the issues related to partnership before they become sore and take over one's rational thinking brain.
6. Sacrifice for the other partner. A sale is never good unless it is a good buy for other person

There are many other factors, which are not surfacing in my mind at present. The most important is that we both will never like to loose the friendship. We have come up to a level in the life, where money is the second priority ( I am intentionally not writing last priority, because that would have been false)

Anil, let me share one thing with u, that while performing my professional and family duties day and night I have not lost any friend but I have left with only one friend i.e. you

If we do some business together that would be pooling of resources, which are complementing to each other. I have some strengths and u have some strengths and all taken jointly would create some thing bigger. That might even improve the quality of life we are leading.

I would look forward to have u with us and spend some time together. I have take some leave from my work and would spend some time in isolation

Love you


Anil C.A.

A letter to my best friend...if I shall do business or not?

…Sorry if you find me very emotional but this is something I must share with you EXACTLY the way and exactly using the words in which I feel about it…Please read and comment with open mind…

Ahead of getting into the discussions of ‘business alliance/partnership/joint venture’ here are some thoughts – Please write your own thoughts as to what do you think ???

It is said that “Business and friendship can be a very volatile combination if you're not careful” – How are we both going to make it happen as “Real Deal in business and friendship”….
Anil, Ideally, WHEN TRUE FRIENDS DO BUSINESS, all the natural laws of negotiation are suspended. The gladiators lay down their swords, and water flows uphill. The buyer demands to pay more, and the seller even insists on taking less! Are we both capable enough to call a spade a spade when doing business keeping friendship in the deep freezer and see it pouring in the glasses as hot scotch in the evening party?
Anil, you and I know it well that the real world instructs us differently: “Friendship is better for business than business is for friendship. Valued relationships will often explode or dissolve when business deals get rocky.” Do we have guts to make our business better for friendship and do we know paths walking on which our relationship will only get better. Do we know the issues upfront which we can identify and deal with carefully so that our friendship never explodes?
At best, it's a scenario that promotes unrealistic expectations and hurtful miscommunication. For one thing, odds are you're more likely to have a spat with a friend you're making a business deal with than one you're not. There are simply more opportunities for you and your friend to get your signals crossed. How can we beat this odd? How differently can we deal with such issue than those who lost their friendships for the sake of business or money?
And who hasn't been astonished by how differently some friends act when doing business? You think you know someone well, but suddenly; he or she morphs into the insanely competitive or disgustingly docile. But actually, it's a deeper dilemma. Do we both have better choices to solve those deeper dilemmas?
In life, the friendship is important in and of itself. But in deal-making, the relationship takes a back seat to business. So experienced deal-makers are not unduly ruffled by greedy, grabby, pushy, evasive, high-handed, disingenuous and/or manipulative opponents. Hey, it's just business right? "Let every eye negotiate for itself and trust no agent," as Shakespeare wrote. In reality, however, we would never expect true friends to treat us this way. Should they dare, then business becomes all too personal. Can we dare??
Anil, the only ROSE without thorn is friendship and you are a rose which I would never want to part with and I repeat “there is no amount of money with which I will trade this rose”.