…Sorry if you find me very emotional but this is something I must share with you EXACTLY the way and exactly using the words in which I feel about it…Please read and comment with open mind…
Ahead of getting into the discussions of ‘business alliance/partnership/joint venture’ here are some thoughts – Please write your own thoughts as to what do you think ???
It is said that “Business and friendship can be a very volatile combination if you're not careful” – How are we both going to make it happen as “Real Deal in business and friendship”….
Anil, Ideally, WHEN TRUE FRIENDS DO BUSINESS, all the natural laws of negotiation are suspended. The gladiators lay down their swords, and water flows uphill. The buyer demands to pay more, and the seller even insists on taking less! Are we both capable enough to call a spade a spade when doing business keeping friendship in the deep freezer and see it pouring in the glasses as hot scotch in the evening party?
Anil, you and I know it well that the real world instructs us differently: “Friendship is better for business than business is for friendship. Valued relationships will often explode or dissolve when business deals get rocky.” Do we have guts to make our business better for friendship and do we know paths walking on which our relationship will only get better. Do we know the issues upfront which we can identify and deal with carefully so that our friendship never explodes?
At best, it's a scenario that promotes unrealistic expectations and hurtful miscommunication. For one thing, odds are you're more likely to have a spat with a friend you're making a business deal with than one you're not. There are simply more opportunities for you and your friend to get your signals crossed. How can we beat this odd? How differently can we deal with such issue than those who lost their friendships for the sake of business or money?
And who hasn't been astonished by how differently some friends act when doing business? You think you know someone well, but suddenly; he or she morphs into the insanely competitive or disgustingly docile. But actually, it's a deeper dilemma. Do we both have better choices to solve those deeper dilemmas?
In life, the friendship is important in and of itself. But in deal-making, the relationship takes a back seat to business. So experienced deal-makers are not unduly ruffled by greedy, grabby, pushy, evasive, high-handed, disingenuous and/or manipulative opponents. Hey, it's just business right? "Let every eye negotiate for itself and trust no agent," as Shakespeare wrote. In reality, however, we would never expect true friends to treat us this way. Should they dare, then business becomes all too personal. Can we dare??
Anil, the only ROSE without thorn is friendship and you are a rose which I would never want to part with and I repeat “there is no amount of money with which I will trade this rose”.
