Happy Halloween...Nov. 01, 2005

Happy Diwali Everyone Nov. 01, 2005

HAPPY DIWALI...EVERYONE

Disagreement? - This is about my feelings...simply

Almost everyday and nearly every one of us finds ourselves involved in disagreements. It could happen with our own child when we ask them to clean their room, dealing with a person’s bad attitude, or gaining the cooperation of any significant other in our personal life, arguments make us feel tense and uneasy. We find ourselves feeling bad, which finally ends in frustration and anger. Can any one of us imagine experiencing all of those negative emotions on a daily basis? You are probably thinking, "I do! But, if most people are like me isn’t this type of negative reaction perfectly natural?" It may be natural. However, I think, it is not necessary. Let us try and reflect a minute or two about our attitude toward disagreement. Is it possible that someone taught us that disagreeing with others is rude, arrogant, combative, aggressive or self-centered? Does the word "disagreement" create a negative reaction in us? If the answer is "yes," STOP. Let us suspend our belief for the next few moments to consider the positive aspects of disagreement. Our negative belief in disagreement could be the very thing preventing us from achieving the status, power and outrageous successes we passionately desire. Disagreements are merely differences in opinion. They are not shouting matches. They are not about winning or losing. When we disagree, we are simply stating how we feel, what we want, what we believe or how far we are willing to go. It is an expression of our morals, ethics and belief system. It defines our personal boundaries of behavior. Doesn't it?

Delhi Terror - What should we do now....???

During one of the busiest shopping days when people stroll through crowded markets in New Delhi and all over India- a colorful season when India strung with colourful bulbs - everyone is buying an extra box of sweets - this extra-sugary sweets are gift of love and affection to some other people who can be our next door neighbors - our relatives or friends. Whom to point at when a pleasantly cool Saturday evening explodes in fire and terror? May be some of our own people have done it - they could be our own neighbors - they could be living just next door. They might still enjoy the gift of our sweets. How can we feel good about the season when some of our own are gone. Can we or should we stop feeling good? Should we stop trusting people? What should we human do when something like this happens? When we feel good, we think the best of other people. If we are going through bad times, we see the devil in everyone. But everyone is not devil - due to some people's act of terror, we have started seeing things that way. The best way to fix a problematic situation like this is to once again start feeling good. And that will help the others do the same too. Is it easy - sure not but we have no other alternative. Stop trusting people will not take us anywhere. We may have to mend our way of thinking - it will then become much easier to feel good - it will seem as if there is now a new alternative in place of an old mended original mindset. This will give us an opportunity for forgive and to create a new way of thinking - may be something better than before. Let us try to do the opposite of what we would normally do in such a situation, let us try to love and care - even when we may have been thinking about bombing them in return. Let us pull them towards and close to our hearts where we think we are supposed to push them into same kind of terror. Let us give ourselves the satisfaction of knowing we have tried everything, even the illogical. A forgiving thought may fix the problems - if we inclined to see ourselves as victims of circumstances, we ultimately will find that this vision proves true. Each and every notion that passes through our mind needs to be closely scrutinized. We can not do what they did. What they did is very wrong but we don't have to do the same wrong....

General Public - Get Killed & be Happy....

Bombs, Shootings, Killings, War - this is is happening all around us everyday. All we see in the media is the disturbing graphic images of part of us (General Public) being killed and then various politicians starting from the city level to the federal level and then to the international level coming out of their well guarded mansions to tell us "Keep Calm - Everything is under control". All politicians face the flashing cameras to make different kinds of pre-written statements..."We shall defeat their nefarious designs and will not allow them to succeed. We are resolute in our commitment to fighting terrorism." says one and "We have lots of information but it is not proper to disclose it yet", says another. And we the general public keep believing them - we trust them every time. Every time part of us is killed - we have been asked to "don't worry" and we have been asked to "keep going on our daily routine without any fear". But security for our leaders will be beefed up - their meetings will be cancelled and rescheduled to take place at "more secure locations". We the public will still have to use the same roads, same markets and the same bullets. And we will once again trust our leaders to "forget" everything and "vote" them once again. We are General Public - we have very short memory - our minds are fickle - we forget that many of us have been deceived but once our leaders tell us to "forget, keep smiling and be happy"... we the public as obedient as ever yet again "smile and be happy" we once again take a bullet right in the middle of our forehead and forget it is for real there are no cameras, no flashes, no media...they will all come 'later' to count how many of us died and to talk to our 'leaders' who will once again talk to the remaining of us and tell them..."DON'T WORRY - BE HAPPY"...

WHY PEOPLE KILL PEOPLE???

While I was busy in Toronto doing blogs on myself, my family and people who are close to me, some people were busy making plans to kill other people in New Delhi, India. On 29th October, 2005 three bomb blasts killed several innocent people. People from all walks of lives – people of all religions – people of all skins. But one thing all had in common their blood was red. After their bodies were taken away behind left was a lot of blood – all mixed up? There was Christian blood mixed up with Hindu blood and both of these got mixed up with Muslim blood and then all with some Sikh blood also there was blood of those mixed with these who believed in no God and no religion. Cameras of the media were unable to catch any blood of green color or blue for that matter. It was all red – only red. No authority after the bombing was able to find out which blood was for which religion. There were different numbers given by different authorities, “29 killed” one authority said and “75 killed” said another. No matter how many people got killed the fact is that people got killed – and got killed by fellow people only. Why people kill people??? What reason can be big enough to kill people who will have nothing to do with the reason at the first place? Can you see in the eyes of this mother - what wrong her daughter did to deserve such a death?? Such actions of people makes me cry. Makes me sad and makes me to think as to where are we all heading towards???

I'm the boss in my house...

Definitely I am the boss in my house and it is me who gave powers to my wife for 'making all decisions'. My children too know it very well that their Dad is the boss and the HEAD of the family. My son in particular admires his father and notes his 'superiority' - "Yes Dad is the HEAD and 'poor' Mom is only the NECK of our family..."

Simply, God's biggest gift to me ever...

Can you see me in this photograph? Look closely and you would. These are the people who belong to me and to whom I belong. My own – can you see in this picture my past? Do you see my present at the same time; and how about my future? These are my people who show me path, hold my hand and wipe my tears. Their eyes are my mirrors. Their faces are my strength. Their complaints are my learning tools. Their smiles work on me like magic. To me, this is simply God’s biggest gift ever…

Why do I love you? Selfishness Simply...???

Why do I love you? Is it for you or my own self? I think I love you not only for what you are but for also what I am when I am with you. I love you not for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me too. I love you for the part of me that you bring out of me. I love you for putting your hand into my heaped up heart and passing over all the foolish and frivolous and weak things that you can't help dimly seeing there and for drawing out into the light all the beautiful radiant belongings that on one else had looked quite enough to find. I love you for ignoring the possibilities of the fool and weakling in me, and for laying firm hold on the possibilities of the good in me. I love you for closing your ears to the discords in me and for adding to the music in me by worshipful listening. I love you because you are helping me to take of the timber of my life not a tavern, but a temple, and of the words of my every day not a reproach, but a song.

Friendship

Friendship for me is not what I take from others, but what I am able to give to others - not so much the material gifts but as the gifts of compassion, sincerity and understanding. Friendship is not a game we play. I have to have time for my friend. I must make myself available in the time of need. Being available means...to take an initiative, write a letter, make a phonecall, send an email, stop for just a visit; even if it isn't my 'turn'. There are 'no turns' in friendship. Being available means altering my own plans to accommodate to listen - not only to what a friend is saying but what a friend is not saying or is trying to say but cannot.

This is ME simply

I can not change anything about myself still I am the 'king', yes king of myself. I drive my self (crazy sometimes) - rule myself. Smile is all I have to show you...smile is all what you want to see. My sorrows are for myself. So keep smiling - don't worry and BE HAPPY...

Loneliness

...My soul at times likes to walk alone. Is it a good idea to be with your loneliness - I wonder. My loneliness makes me something different, at different times. I like to become lonesome, even lifeless occasionally; just a stone on the roadside. I become a bone sometimes inside my friends body - even my enemy's and sometimes inside my own body too. A bone as strong and dead as a stone with life running inside and around making it feel full of life. Inside the bone runs hot bone marrow like lava and around it runs red hot burning blood. I am dead because I am a bone but inside me and outside me there is life, a lot of it. Burning, dark red and as hot as blood inside my body. Have I been turned into a receptacle for my own blood...Or is it the blood which I may have sucked out of other fellow human...???